The tweet was imprecise due to the decontextualization that 140 characters gives. Also, this is just tricky, slippery stuff. I was talking to my counselor about how I define and identify myself within the context of my work and my profession. I said I could lose my job but I would still have my work and that's where a lot of my identity comes in these days.
And he asked: Who would you be without your ability to code, what if you couldn't see, couldn't type... There's a process-driven identity and then there's an identity which is your innate self. I don't tend to think of myself as an ecswhyzee kind of person, but a person who does ecswhyzee.
Eventually I got to saying, well, I approach pairing with humor and lightness, and my counselor helped me extract that perhaps my identity being has humor and lightness…
Does this clarification help? If not, please ask questions so that i can find better language to illuminate this difference.