- author speaks of promoting a 'familial' feeling in the group for psych safety and promoting connection
- lots of proximity, eye contact, mixing ideas, courtesy, humor, fist bumps, etc...these are called 'belonging cues'
we look often at the rhythms of social interaction rather than the content of those interactions
belonging needs continually to be refreshed and reinforced, like telling your partner you love them.
spurs' coach papavich - masterful at connecting the team, "hug em and hold em" he says, uses food and wine as a bridge to build relationships.
but what about when he has to give bad feedback to the players?