This is a note that is already shared with my wife to help her through when/if I should die. I store it in a vault in 1Password so my wife can see this at any time and I try to keep it updated. I'm posting this publicly so maybe others can use this as a starting point so their spouse knows how to get into all the digital accounts/persona's we have (financial or otherwise).
The PIN to my phone is ... (I hope your spouse already knows how to log into your phone)
For some of these instructions, they might be a bit technical ... or ya know, you just lost your husband and don't feel like going through this. But for help in getting these things in your control so you know how to access them. For technical help I would trust Joe Name or Suzie Name, their contact info is in my phone. I would trust them to help you get these where you can access things.
My Gmail password is in 1Password as well. You might need to use this. I have Two Factor Authentication (2FA) turned on so you will need to use the Goog