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{"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:01:46+0000","message":"there's this project that I really need all of your help and input on. \n\nWhat are some micro aggressions you've ever experienced?\n\nIf you feel more comfortable PMing me, please do so as well, you have my complete support and confidentiality :)","actions":[{"name":"Like","link":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/LadiesStormHackathons\/permalink\/1639069169681491\/"},{"name":"Comment","link":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/LadiesStormHackathons\/permalink\/1639069169681491\/"},{"name":"Create Group Chat","link":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/LadiesStormHackathons\/"}],"comments":{"data":[{"id":"1639069766348098","from":{"name":"Hallie Lomax","id":"10204765677278720"},"message":"I remember going to a hackathon and walking up to say hi to a recruiter from a company that I'd interned at the year before. She assumed I was a business business school student, who'd gone through one of their non-technical programs.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:06:26+0000","like_count":8,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639070399681368","from":{"name":"Mackenzie Burnett","id":"10152096304005875"},"message":"People assume that my cofounder and I are dating just because we're a male and female team. And I'm always the one that gets the question, not him. I know Anastasia experienced this too...it's annoying because the underlying assumption is that something other than purely meritocratic reasons went into us working together, though the question is never meant in a \"bad\" way.","message_tags":[{"id":"2101253967185","name":"Anastasia","type":"user","offset":155,"length":9}],"can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:10:58+0000","like_count":15,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639070833014658","from":{"name":"Gayle Laakmann McDowell","id":"10101188843774347"},"message":"Good friends asking me if I work full time or if I stay at home part time with my kid. (Funny. My husband never gets this question.)","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:14:02+0000","like_count":16,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639070919681316","from":{"name":"Gayle Laakmann McDowell","id":"10101188843774347"},"message":"*Clients* (who are, by definition, paying me a bunch of money to work with them) being surprised\/confused to find out I have a kid because, well, what on earth do I do with my kid when I\u2019m traveling? (Um, what? My nanny takes him during the day \u2014 just like she does when I\u2019m not traveling. My husband takes him at night... just like I would if he were traveling. How is this even a question?)","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:14:36+0000","like_count":7,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639071383014603","from":{"name":"Freia Lisa Lobo","id":"10152461992049382"},"message":"Me: \"I'm just saying, we both know I'm a better engineer and you got this cause you're a girl\"\nMe: \"That's a really shitty thing to say\"\nHim: \"Well I'm not talking about you I'm talking about all girls.\"","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:18:42+0000","like_count":7,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639071513014590","from":{"name":"Gayle Laakmann McDowell","id":"10101188843774347"},"message":"My husband\u2019s currently taking some time off work. Friends assume that I must be upset about this, since we\u2019re about to have our second child and they assume he\u2019s the primary earner.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:19:29+0000","like_count":6,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639071696347905","from":{"name":"Diane Yang","id":"10204142674797785"},"message":"Last year an old friend who was about to start college asked me to ask my *boyfriend* for a recommendation for a CS-friendly laptop. Like, um... I'm right here and I study CS too...","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:20:39+0000","like_count":6,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639071723014569","from":{"name":"Gayle Laakmann McDowell","id":"10101188843774347"},"message":"People assuming that, since I run my own company, I can just take a super long maternity leave. I *really* doubt people would make the same assumption about my husband if he were running his own company. That would be assumed to be a real income-earning company \u2014 unlike mine, apparently.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:20:54+0000","like_count":11,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639071743014567","from":{"name":"Anastasia Marchenkova","id":"2101253967185"},"message":"Seconding Mackenzie. Also being talked over all the time. Even from dudes that are my friends and do totally respect me. It's just so ingrained.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:21:09+0000","like_count":6,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639071773014564","from":{"name":"Freia Lisa Lobo","id":"10152461992049382"},"message":"I was wearing a Google shirt while doing laundry in my dorm and a complete rando asked me \"Does your boyfriend work at Google?\"","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:21:33+0000","like_count":29,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639071956347879","from":{"name":"Ashley Qian","id":"10152510096534708"},"message":"back at college, my mom would extremely worried about whether I could \"keep up with the boys\" in my CS classes. i wasn't \"like one of those genius male coders\".\n\nthen my dad would follow that up with a \"don't worry, you don't have to be an engineer, you can be a manager\" talk.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:22:58+0000","like_count":10,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072033014538","from":{"name":"Gayle Laakmann McDowell","id":"10101188843774347"},"message":"I don't know if this really counts as a microaggression since it's not really *against* me (more against fathers), but my husband gets comments from total strangers ALL THE TIME about how great of a dad he is. Don't get me wrong -- he's an amazing dad. But... I really feel like it's a \"oh, that's so sweet! You took your kid to the park even though you're just the dad\" sort of thing.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:23:55+0000","like_count":9,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072049681203","from":{"name":"Megan Ruthven","id":"1529490739"},"message":"> finishes soldering something\n> first to finish in class \n> random classmate \"oh that's cute you soldered that all by yourself\"","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:24:17+0000","like_count":4,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072096347865","from":{"name":"Gemma Busoni","id":"1444097575831050"},"message":"When presenting VR content at conferences, being asked if I'm going to \"try to learn anything from the engineers.\"","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:24:55+0000","like_count":9,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072149681193","from":{"name":"Diane Yang","id":"10204142674797785"},"message":"Constantly having to fight off people assuming I'm a designer. I totally admire and respect what designers do. But I want to spend my time coding, not designing. (To be fair, I suppose the source of confusion is that I also do art as a hobby).","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:25:17+0000","like_count":5,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072153014526","from":{"name":"Selynna Sun","id":"10202955334517459"},"message":"I've had friends ask me if I go to hackathons for the guys. Also because I hang out with mostly guys, I always get asked if I'm dating one of them","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:25:18+0000","like_count":6,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072296347845","from":{"name":"Hallie Lomax","id":"10204765677278720"},"message":"The first time I ever used a power drill was when I was six years old (my parents weren't all that attentive). Basically, I've always known how to use power tools and stuff. Even in high school, my art classes required me to used power saws and staplers.\n\nI went on a Habitat for Humanity build, and was just drilling holes in the wall when a man came up to me and said: \"How about we leave the real work to members of the gender that played with toy trucks in the dirt?\" And then took my drill from me. I was so pissed.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:26:37+0000","like_count":6,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072319681176","from":{"name":"Gayle Laakmann McDowell","id":"10101188843774347"},"message":"Do micro aggression against my baby\/toddler son count? A babysitter commenting to my then-12-month-old son \u201cSomeone got all dirty! Good thing you\u2019re a boy and don\u2019t need to worry about that!\"","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:27:02+0000","like_count":2,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072579681150","from":{"name":"Mackenzie Burnett","id":"10152096304005875"},"message":"being told to smile by strangers when i'm perfectly happy, reading on a couch or something. I HAVE RESTING BITCH FACE and I don't see you telling the brooding dude next to me to smile","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:29:38+0000","like_count":8,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072586347816","from":{"name":"Gayle Laakmann McDowell","id":"10101188843774347"},"message":"This common question: \u201cHow\u2019d you get into engineering? Was your dad or grandfather an engineer?\u201d Well yes they both were. But much more importantly, so was my mom. And my grandmother. And two of my aunts.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:29:44+0000","like_count":18,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072609681147","from":{"name":"Sarah Harvey","id":"10152114387934087"},"message":"My roommate (male) and I went to go see Star Trek at the SF Symphonic Hall, and the usher gave him two programs, \"one for your girlfriend\".\n\n(We're not dating).","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:29:50+0000","like_count":3,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072666347808","from":{"name":"Diane Yang","id":"10204142674797785"},"message":"A couple years back I was volunteering with a friend to coach a middle school Lego robotics team. We tried to encourage the girls on the team to take a more active role in coding instructions for the robot since we saw that many were gravitating more towards writing the presentation. But then one of the boys chimed in and said something like, \"Let us do it. The girls can't code.\"","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:30:41+0000","like_count":6,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072699681138","from":{"name":"Selynna Sun","id":"10202955334517459"},"message":"My parents keep telling me that I should go into business instead of cs because it's less tiring for a girl","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:30:55+0000","like_count":5,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639072773014464","from":{"name":"Laura Daniela Barreto","id":"10153029819709755"},"message":"\"You should ask our manager because you're a girl.\" Oh I'm sorry, I didn't realize my gender indicates ability for asking questions.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:31:11+0000","like_count":2,"user_likes":false},{"id":"1639073006347774","from":{"name":"Sarah Harvey","id":"10152114387934087"},"message":"I often have to clarify that just because my roommate is male and we share an apartment together, does not mean we're dating. I have a separate boyfriend. My roommate is single.\n\nThere is no weird awkwardness. There is no weird love triangle. Please just stop making assumptions. We're good friends, we're coworkers, and we go on adventures together. We would not get these questions if we were both male or both female.","can_remove":false,"created_time":"2015-09-30T05:33:13+0000","like_count":6,"user_likes":false}],"paging":{"cursors":{"after":"WTI5dGJXVnVkRjlqZFhKemIzSTZNVFl6T1RBM016QXdOak0wTnpjM05Eb3hORFF6TlRreE1Ua3o=","before":"WTI5dGJXVnVkRjlqZFhKemIzSTZNVFl6T1RBMk9UYzJOak0wT0RBNU9Eb3hORFF6TlRnNU5UZzI="},"next":"https:\/\/graph.facebook.com\/v2.0\/1384252878496456_1639069169681491\/comments?order=chronological&access_token=CAACEdEose0cBAMjoZBgsLkisJj4HFZALBz2BRu1Lhg6ZAH1vh3w9WZCCxGRG29ToFGZCa9LkBhmWDmXxDOeWVgZCocrT0vk0ryLpIBYB9ZC5vO9BMeiyKWpfFDZAp03c0PwPLZC8B0OJrZATZA5bdpvPiO8rsL3ZA8vB8mBgDuyblhYbt1ZC9C2j2Sgk4ZBpfZA3ysJOGeloXhLWgsWMsLCdcHyZBzPpdpVoKwf4P64ZD&limit=25&after=WTI5dGJXVnVkRjlqZFhKemIzSTZNVFl6T1RBM016QXdOak0wTnpjM05Eb3hORFF6TlRreE1Ua3o\u00253D"}},"from":{"name":"Evadora de Zhengia","id":"642642467"},"is_hidden":false,"is_expired":false,"likes":{"data":[{"id":"10152354030906665","name":"Amelia Malone"},{"id":"895206250574595","name":"Rosheen Chaudhry"},{"id":"770752512942994","name":"Ronna Naomi"},{"id":"1498373120435048","name":"Lily Cao"},{"id":"1481126375470131","name":"Surya Venkatram"},{"id":"1335540112","name":"Mike Swift"},{"id":"280142368852793","name":"Meghna Mehta"},{"id":"402684836574169","name":"Sophia Rj"},{"id":"10152583548193635","name":"Alvin Qicong Deng"},{"id":"10203037863691060","name":"Kaitlyn Dwelle"},{"id":"401797366625339","name":"Michael Yang"},{"id":"10206367058202148","name":"Alyssa K. 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