Because I work on AI, people sometimes email/DM me and ask for a meeting to discuss their ideas about a paper/project. I already have a lot on my plate so collaborating with them is not an option. Still, I often read their messages and agree to chat, despite having a tight schedule. Sometimes the conversation goes like this:
- Them: Can we talk sometime this week?
- Me: Sure, how does Friday 2pm sound?
- Them: Can we do it earlier, like 11am?
- Me: I can’t, there’s a seminar I have to go to.
- Them: Okay, 2pm actually works for me.
At this point, they’ve already shown their disrespect for my time: 2pm would work for them but they prioritized their convenience over mine. But it gets worse: these people typically then ask me to send them a calendar invite or Zoom link!