Automatically check if installed packages are up-to-date, before start and lint scripts, and on `git pull`; MIT License, Copyright Jörn Zaefferer

check-packages.js

#!/usr/bin/env node
//@ts-check
const { execSync } = require('child_process')
const mainPackage = require('../package.json')
const packageLock = require('../package-lock.json')
const outdated = []
Object.keys(mainPackage.dependencies)
  .concat(Object.keys(mainPackage.devDependencies))
  .forEach(packageName => {
    try {
      const installedPackage = require(`${packageName}/package.json`)
      const installedVersion = installedPackage.version
      const desiredVersion = packageLock.dependencies[packageName].version
      if (installedVersion !== desiredVersion) {
        outdated.push(
          `${packageName}:, installed ${installedVersion}, desired ${desiredVersion}`
        )
      }
    } catch (error) {
      if (error.code !== 'ERR_PACKAGE_PATH_NOT_EXPORTED') {
        console.error(error)
        process.exit(1)
      }
    }
  })

if (outdated.length > 0) {
  console.log(`some package(s) are outdated, updating`)
  console.log(outdated.join('\n'))
  execSync(`npm i --registry=https://registry.npmjs.org/`)
}

package.json

{
  "other": "stuff,
  "scripts": {
    "prelint": "node scripts/check-packages.js",
    "prestart": "node scripts/check-packages.js"  
  },
  "husky": {
    "hooks": {
      "post-merge": "node scripts/check-packages.js"
    }
  },
}

ah, I see - thanks! I misunderstood the use case.
so basically for yarn it's the same as you and your team did:

const { parse } = require("@yarnpkg/lockfile");
const { readFileSync } = require("fs");
const { execSync } = require("child_process");

const yarnLock = readFileSync("./yarn.lock", "utf8");
const { object: lockedDependencies } = parse(yarnLock);

const pkg = require("./package.json");
const dependencies = {
  ...(pkg.dependencies || {}),
  ...(pkg.devDependencies || {}),
};

const install = () => execSync("yarn");

for (const [name, version] of Object.entries(dependencies)) {
  try {
    const installed = require(`${name}/package.json`);
    const locked = lockedDependencies[`${name}@${version}`];
    if (!locked || installed.version !== locked.version) {
      install();
      break;
    }
  } catch (e) {
    if (e.code === "MODULE_NOT_FOUND") install();
    else throw e;
  }
}

Would be cool if we turned this into a module that supports npm, yarn and pnpm probably!