On August 15, 2013, Barlow participated in a Reddit AMA, where he shared his "Principles of Adult Behavior",
which were originally written in 1977 on the eve of his 30th birthday and have been in circulation ever since:
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Be patient. No matter what.
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Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, not blame. Say nothing of another you wouldn’t say to him in the same language and tone of voice.
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Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.
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Expand your sense of the possible.
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Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.
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Expect no more of anyone than you can deliver yourself.
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Tolerate ambiguity.
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Laugh at yourself frequently.
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Concern yourself with what is right rather than who is right.
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Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
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Give up blood sports.
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Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Don’t risk it frivolously.
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Never lie to anyone for any reason. (Lies of omission are sometimes exempt.)
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Learn the needs of those around you and respect them.
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Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.
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Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
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Praise at least as often as you disparage.
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Admit your errors freely and soon.
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Become less suspicious of joy.
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Understand humility.
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Remember that love forgives everything.
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Foster dignity.
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Live memorably.
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Love yourself.
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Endure.
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