Mansplaning 101 for Cisadmins (PuppetLabs)

Mansplaning 101 for Cisadmins - Marni Cohen
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Semantics
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Rebecca Solnit - Men Explain Things to Me
- Often the transfer from a majority to a minority


Microaggressions

- the little stuff can be so much worse the big stuff

Imposter syndrome

- "It's easy to blame yourself for how others treat you"

Feminism

- "Identify as a feminist and do not act apologetically for it."

Cis/Trans
Ally work

Syntax
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- Most common mansplaining issue: Interupption

Influence of Communication Partner's Gender on Language - Journal of Language and Social Psychology

Active listening
- Listening to others
    physical
    - eye contact
    - nodding
    Verbal
    - clarifying questions
    - paraphrase/confirm
    - "uh huh" listening verbal clues
It's okay to backtrack!
If you say 'windows is retarded' you can say 'ack! I didn't mean that, I mean it's frustrating'

Open Source!
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Paired programming
    - Ask to drive
    - Observing
        - See your own organisation
        - How many women are technical
        - How many at senior positions?
    - Listening
    - Mentoring
    - Be inclusive
    - Checking In
        - If you see something happen, you can check in later on it
        - Polite, powerful way of addressing something out of the moment of the incident

Open Dialogue
    - Chat rooms
    - Meetups
    - Email lists
    - Break bad habits
    - Participate in your policies
    - Participate in your community
    - Conferences have their own separate foundation
        - anonymous talk submissions
        - captioning for live streaming

NPR Women in Tech Series
Ashe

gitlab.com/marni/mansplaining