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A very simple life improvement hack is to relentlessly exclude people from your life that consistently hurt you. Anyone that is:
- demeaning
- argumentative
- unforgiving
- violent
- uninterested or neutral regarding your success
... these people have to go immediately. If they won't go, then, you go. The drama stops as soon as you choose not to tolerate it. Is financial hardship stopping you from getting away? Don't beat yourself up...lots of people are in this situation. How do you get out? Do what most people aren't doing...stop F@@@ing spending money!
You spend tons of money because you're sad. Consider taking a step back and reflect on how much $ you spend when you're sad, or envious.
Keep in mind...some people intentionally trigger you in order to control you though your emotions? You might have missed it because you have that deer in the headlights look, and they're exploiting that weakness in you.
Just because someone has the title, "Dad", doesn't mean you shouldn't let them go if they're toxic or if they make your life hell. If they make your life hell, it's OK to let them go.
Just because someone holds a significant title, whether it's "Dad," "Mom," "Boss," or any other, it doesn't mean you should endure their toxicity or allow them to make your life a living hell. If a person, regardless of their title, consistently inflicts emotional pain or turmoil in your life, it's perfectly acceptable to consider letting them go.
Familial relationships, like those with parents or siblings, carry a profound historical and cultural significance. Similarly, professional relationships with a "Boss" can hold a strong influence on your career. However, these titles should never serve as a shield for abusive or detrimental behavior. Your mental and emotional well-being should always take precedence over any title.
Recognize that no one should force you to endure constant negativity or harm, be it a "Mom," a "Friend," a "Partner," or a "Teacher." Setting boundaries and prioritizing your own happiness and peace of mind is an essential form of self-care. Regardless of the title attached to the individual, you have every right to protect yourself from harmful relationships and take steps toward a healthier, more fulfilling life.
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If life kind-of sucks for you right now, it's only because .
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some people get triggered when you set boundaries.
You initially scoffed at this book asserting that it was too short to be of any use...until you realized ...
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Chapter 9: The only people who get upset when you start setting boundaries are the ones who benefited from you not having them.
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