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Intro

Warning: this content is distilled soley from personal experience and completely lacks any sort of expertise (that's never stopped me before, though).

I've been thinking about conversations.

I hate to start off by being presumptuous, but it's likely that you've been a part of a lot of conversations. You might even remember some.

They're tricky things that ebb, flow and meander (like, are you a river? Or are you an exchange of words backed by gestures and facial expressions between one or more people?!). They strike out at unruly tangets and then come full circle. They end abruptly, with a sorrowful amount of things left unsaid and they drag on into the infinite depths of boredom. Sometimes they're heated in an aggressive way, while sometimes they're heated in a ... hot way. Sometimes it's all light-heared, care-free laughs, while other times the tension is palpable and the pressure is suffocating.

People are good at them and people are bad at them. Even more people are terrible at them. A s

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I've been thinking about common understandings and expectations.

Common understandings are often unspoken and underpin how we navigate a lot of social situations. They often result in expectations of the way people "should act" and the way things "should be".

Expectations are the root of most of the satisfaction and friction that a person experiences in their daily life.

Let's go through how expectations affect how we respond to things, the joys and pitfalls of unspoken understandings and how the two factor into so many of our interactions.

Common Understanding

Try to think of a relationship that you have where everything is just silky smooth. The jokes always land, the going is easy, the tension is never taut and things just click, as they always have.

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I've been thinking about the internet.

Outline

• the internet is subtley diffused in our lives, making countless different things incredibly accessible at a moment's impulse
• there are structures in place to support and incentive to capture and monetize our attention
• thinking is hard, requiring time and quiet, but content consumption interferes with it
• once other people get involved, the emotional/mental shortcuts we experience on a personal level start to turn into polarization, echo chambers and misinformation

Discrete and Manageable -> Dispersed and Unwieldy

TODO: maybe half this length?

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I've been thinking about the internet.

I'm going to try and describe some phenomenon that I think a lot of people experience related to the internet, why I think they're not great, why these personal things matter to us all and then list out a couple strategies that have helped me deal with them.

In general, I've found that discussions of these topics are a bit dimissive and downplay just how strong of an impact our usage of the internet has on us. I'll try to avoid being a doomsayer and rather just try to explain.

Welcome to the Internet

I used to think about the internet as a place that I went to. I knew when I was there because I had to do something to get there: plug in a CD or use up the phone line. Now, the internet is everywhere. It's expected* and we're constantly finding new ways to embed it in our lives. It's hard to even tell sometimes when something is connected or not. I didn't even realize that smart TVs were serving me ads until last year. This pervaviseness lends the internet a

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Initial pass of resources

google search for: https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-d&q=socket+io+game+server+architecture

https://modernweb.com/building-multiplayer-games-node-js-socket-io/

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https://medium.com/@MichalMecinski/architecture-of-a-node-js-multiplayer-game-a9365356cb9

quick overview of a co-op jigsaw puzzle game

• a central server for "high level tasks" e.g. player connection

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daunted by many problems, not doing anything to help, paralyzed by apriori concerns

It's all too much sometimes.

What is ?

All of the problems in the world, all of the problems I have in my life, the things I'd like to do weighed against the things I end up doing. How shitty people are. Y'know...all of it?

That does sound like a lot. How do these things affect you here and now, though? Results require time and effort. They're incremental! So, what progress can you make today?

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Lately, I've been thinking about "being meta".

It, being such a gosh darn abstract and fundamental idea, can be applied to many things*. Meta jokes, meta movies, meta-cognitive skills, meta-analysis of people, arguments and behaviors. I'm slightly upset that Facebook's rebranding is trying to devalue this word, so, if you can, keeping calling them Facebook.

• * you're welcome for this banal* statement
  • * I heard this word recently and really wanted to use it. It means "so obvious as to be boring". Plz use it now, ty.

Meta means "above" or "outside of". For content, we mostly mean that the content is self-referential, or "aware of itself". "Breaking the fourth wall" (roughly: acknowledging the audience) is meta.

For processes in general, we mostly mean that it considers each element in a broader context than the one in which we first encounter it. A meta look at an argument might find someone is just constantly playing "devil's advocate" and not actually engaging with the conversation. The same words

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Lately, I've been thinking about being a beginner.

There's immense value in trying out new things, extending from a personal to a cosmic scale. If no one began anything then nothing would happen, except all those old things (blegh). No matter what it is, whether a simple new hobby, an endeavour of self-improvement or a Herculean task of great import, going through the process has value in-and-of itself and is the only consistent route to truly great things. So! We should keep doing it!

---- Begin long-winded rant on the value of trying new things in relation to fulfillment ----

There's no "right way to live", as far as I've seen. Even theistic religions keep to some core tenets and give a lot of room for maneuvering. There've gotta be better ways to live, though. There are big questions that we'll never answer or tricky bits of morality that we're still figuring out, but aside from these we know some things that are just better, especially at a personal scale.

"To each their own" we say, with un

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Lately I've been thinking about the crosses that people bear, how they got there and this lil' ol' thing called "toxic* giving".

• *after a few test-drives, I officially endorse the usage of the word "toxic" in its social connotation. It's not a reflection of the coddled over-sensitive snowflake culture that wouldn't have won the war. It is an acknowledgement that we can be shitty to each other in a variety of subtle ways and that these can have just as meaningful impacts as even physical stresses.

To start, it'll be helpful to align on some basics of give-and-take to see the possibilities of over-giving or under-taking.

Give and Take

DISCLAIMER: I hope this doesn't come across as "mansplaining", but rather a helpful bridge between our two understandings and the coloring-in of a mental picture that I hope we both can see. Too often we talk at cross purposes because we don't take the time to establish the simplest parts of an idea. If we can't align on the small stuff, how can we do so on the big s